Friendships in a Relationship

Today Sqeaky, whom I consider my best friend, stopped by to see Amanda. He knows the difficult issues we are facing with pregnancy and wanted to check on my wife. Amanda truly likes Sqeaky as well, but treats her relationship with him much differently than she treats her other personal friendships. If I were not in her life, yet she knew Sqeaky, she would likely be friends with him. She is reluctant to let the friendship blossom because he is so important to me. Everybody needs an outlet to vent frustrations and with whom to have secrets, according to Amanda. If he became close friends with her, I would lose that outlet to spout about her.

They say if you really love something, you should let it go. If it comes back, it was meant to be. Apparently, if you really love something, kick its friends in the balls, if they keel over, you've given them something more with which to bond. Okay, so she didn't do that, but she basically said she's going to start turning him down when he wants to visit with just her. I never thought it could help a relationship but it kinda makes sense... her insight on my needs is evident, even if I'm not aware of what I need.